Why Loving Within is the First Step to Loving Outwardly
For years I struggled with #self sabotaging behaviors and I couldn’t understand why until one day I heard the saying somewhere, “You can’t #love someone until you learn to love yourself”. That struck me to the core. I was in a long-term relationship with my now husband and I so badly wanted to believe that I could love him fully and unconditionally regardless of the relationship that I had with myself. I was so wrong.
Many of us so badly want and expect others to love us unconditionally when we fail to do it for ourselves. We’ve conditioned our brains to think negative, abusive thoughts about ourselves and our self-worth and thus have blocked our heart-brain connection. We create habits and behaviors that don’t serve us, but in the instant moment they feel so soothing.
“Many of us so badly want and expect others to love us unconditionally when we fail to do it for ourselves.”
Self love equals self discipline equals self integrity. It took me a while to wrap my brain around this concept, but it’s so true. When we commit to loving ourselves we commit to honoring our bodies, our minds, and our hearts. We create healthy boundaries in our relationships, consume nourishing food and drink ample amounts of water, we take care of our physical needs, and we connect to our hearts and souls. For me, this means connecting on a spiritual level and it was the missing link holding me back from being well-rounded in my wellness.
Learning to quiet our ego and listen to the little whisper inside of our hearts telling us the things that are in our best interest is the catalyst in our journey of self-love. Taking a step outside of ourselves to look at the bigger picture and ask “is this the type of person that I want to show up as?” is a real game changer in how we start to emotionally navigate ourselves. If we really want to create change in our lives, we have to ask and answer the tough questions. Maybe they’re not so fun, but they must be answered in order for us to truly know and envision who it is we want to be in this world and how we want to feel.
“Learning to quiet our ego and listen to the little whisper inside of our hearts telling us the things that are in our best interest is the catalyst in our journey of self-love.”
When we learn to love ourselves unconditionally, we’re able to appreciate, accept and receive unconditional love from others. We’re able to accept love, joy, and feel gratitude and we’re able to attract the things we truly desire in life.